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Day Four: Dreamsetting
Discover what you truly want and make your dreams come true
To be fair, today’s chapter was — for the main part — an inspiring read. Considering I paid one pence (plus £2.79 delivery) for the book on Amazon (UK) Marketplace, this section gave good Bang for my Cent.
Ignoring the ever-growing list of mind-programming techniques which preface each day’s chapter — and, quite frankly, still make me shudder — this section included lots of tidbits and exercises to help you Dream Big. He’s still couching every last sentence in NLP techniques and, at times, comes across more excitable than a Labrador puppy — Well done! You’re going to have a great day! Everything’s going to be amazing! People who overuse exclamation marks should be lined up and beat over the head with them! — but I can overlook that if there’s something worth digging out and sharing with others. One example is the following statement which values the ‘process’ as much as the end ‘product’:
Three Steps to a Wonderful Life
There are essentially only three things you need to have a wonderful life:
- A clear direction (your Dream)
- A well-aligned compass (your Values)
- Milestones you can visit along the way to your ultimate destination (your Goals)
For our purposes, we can think about it like this:
When you pursue your goals guided by your values in the context of your dreams, miracles happen!
Methinks there’s a *tad* more to living a wonderful life than the above three points… still, values are important. (And if I start picking holes in the many overly-simplistic statements McKenna makes, I’ll be here forever more.)
I’ve seen a lot of folk lose sight of their innermost values while Chasing the Ace. McKenna illustrates this with an example of a motivational speaker who encouraged his audience to devote twenty-four hours a day to the pursuit of their financial goals. ‘If your family doesn’t understand,’ he said, ‘get a new family.’ Apparently, his fourth wife sat smiling and nodding at the back of the room. Like McKenna says, what good is a successful career if it’s at the cost of your marriage and you hardly ever see your children?
Now, this may be painfully obvious to many, but I’m currently watching a friend of mine run themselves into the ground just to earn a good salary. Doesn’t matter they don’t have a life, that their relationship is suffering, just so long as they’re bringing home a decent wedge of bacon. But we’re not defined by how much we earn, or the area we live in, or the car we drive.
I used to do the same — convince myself I was happy with my lot just because I earned a good wage, took lots of holidays, could eat out wherever I wanted, buy ‘stuff’ whenever I wanted. But inside, I was rotting. I wasn’t using my innate qualities, gifts and talents. I hated myself and resented anyone else who had the courage to follow their dreams, taking tiny swipes out of other writers with sly remarks and insidious put-downs.
Took me a long time to realise I possessed everything I needed inside to escape my depressive morass and live my dream out into the world. In my case, I started writing — writing, writing, writing. I quickly went from blogging to freelance writing to being a published author. Now, I write about all the things I most enjoy in life. Funny thing is, the more I write, the more doors it opens, the more wonderful opportunities come my way, which gives me more to write about… and on it goes. Best part is, I get to share in those experiences with my friends and loved ones. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all plain sailing and there are days I don’t even have a pot to piss in — but it’s a hell of a lot better than my previous desperate existence.
Although McKenna provides questions and strategies to help elicit your innermost dreams, I’ve found one of the best ways of accessing them is by imagining what you’d do if money were no object and everyone supported, encouraged, and offered to help you realise them (dreams). Whether it’s achievable or realistic is not the point at this stage — the point is to just allow yourself to dream and to allow the dream to unfold however it wants. Because, as strange as this may sound, you’d be surprised how few people permit themselves the beauty and freedom of dreaming once they ‘grow up’…
‘Don’t ask what the world needs – ask what makes you come alive and then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.’ – Howard Martin
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(To read more about how Thea transformed her life from the bottom-up and inside out, buy her inspiring book here.)