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March 21, 2013

Awakening to Sacred Sexuality: Shakti Tantra Workshop Review

Shakti Tantra Workshop Review

Awakening to Sacred Sexuality

UD: RECONNECT

By Thea Euryphaessa

Awakening to Sacred Sexuality (Awakenings) is the first of five levels of Shakti Tantra’s mixed training programme.

Methodical, orderly soul that I am, I chose to complete Shakti Tantra’s women’s training programme first, before embarking on the mixed training programme. I’m glad I did it that way as I wanted to clearly differentiate the masculine and feminine principles by working with women first, before later reconnecting with men within a sacred, ritual space.

Having already met Shiva in his highest potential at level five of the women’s training programme (Ecstasy), it was wonderful to meet him at the beginning of his journey towards embodying a deeper relationship with the masculine and feminine energies.

Every time I see a man embrace sacred sexuality in this culture, my faith is renewed that there are still many who want to engage with women at a more mature, more conscious level. What I witnessed at this workshop were men who wanted to get past the cultural stereotypes and learn about women by meeting them with an open heart and a joy of spirit while also approaching them with humility and integrity. In this workshop men respected women, listened to women, and honoured women.

Women, meanwhile, met men at a more conscious, more heartfelt level. Many women don’t want to be angry anymore, lumping them (men) all in the same category, believing them all to be same (i.e. liars, cheats, and bastards)—because the truth is, they’re not. Many women, however, can only do this if they are treated with respect, humility, and integrity which, in this workshop, they were.

In this workshop, we came together to learn from one another and to honour one another. We came together to strip away superficiality and replace it with sacrality. We came together for something more. We came together to nourish the body, to stimulate the mind, to heal the heart. We came together to set aside millennia of hurt and pain. We came together to celebrate one another. We came together to heal.

But above all else, we had an absolute blast. Shakti Tantra know how to create a safe, loving, and non-judgemental space in which people are able to really let go and just be themselves. A sense of humour is encouraged and laughter a priority as the teachers and assistants know how to get the party started and have some fun. But, as always, they keep a watchful eye over all proceedings by holding the space and making sure everyone is supported and cared for—they always, always, always get the balance right.

Like I said, I’m glad I completed the women’s training programme first, before commencing the mixed training programme. I doubt I’d have been able to bring the same level of consciousness to this workshop had I not worked with men beforehand. But having already met and worked with Shiva in a highly ritualised, sacred space at Ecstasy, I was able to carry that level of consciousness over to this workshop which coloured my experience for the better.

On leaving, I felt inspired, my body felt calm and replete, and my heart felt open. I look forward to continuing my mixed training journey with the many delightful souls whom I had the privilege of meeting at this workshop.

Long may this organisation and its fabulous, much needed work continue.

(For further information on Shakti Tantra’s work click here to visit their website.)

July 5, 2012

Ayten Gasson Lingerie

Ayten Gasson Lingerie

By Casey Gillespie

A woman never forgets her first piece of lingerie. The way the cool silk gently slides over her body or how delicate the lace feels between her fingers. Like many women, Ayten Mustafa developed a deep affection for lingerie at a young age and even before her graduation day from Central Saint Martin’s arrived, she knew this would be her calling. Coming from a long line of designers and makers, Mustafa understands the lifeline of the industry and, from the start, was committed to sourcing ethical materials as well as to keeping her manufacturing firmly rooted in Britain — and thus the luxury lingerie brand Ayten Gasson was born.

Each piece of the collection has a charmingly retro feel, perhaps reminiscent of the days when factories were the bloodline of the British people. Over the years, much of the textile industry has been moved outside of the UK’s boarders, but with the help of the Prince’s Trust, Ayten Mustafa and her eco lingerie line, Ayten Gasson, are bringing old traditions back to life.

Q: Why did you choose to design lingerie?

I use to work in a well-known high street lingerie chain while studying for my degree. I would see these lovely designs in the shop that were made out of cheap fabrics and imported, synthetic laces. I grew up with the knowledge of high quality fabrics and the history behind the UK textile industry. I thought it was a shame that these companies were not supporting the UK fashion and manufacturing trade and this fuelled my passion for lingerie design and for supporting other UK manufacturing businesses.

Q: What does it mean to be an eco lingerie brand?

I always try and source locally and know that my designs are produced in factories with the same values. I have always been fairly environmentally aware and have tried to grow the label as ethically as possible. Being an eco brand should not just be used as a tag line to try and be on trend – it should be something you embrace on a daily basis.

Q: What are the reasons for choosing the UK for manufacturing?

Once I graduated from university I was disheartened to find so much of the fashion industry had moved abroad and that there was a significant lack of work in the UK. I decided to start my own label and incorporate the skill and history of British manufacturing.

Q: What are your methods of production?

All my collections are designed, sampled and produced in the UK. The trims and laces always come from local suppliers with many laces being sourced in the few remaining lace factories in the UK. When possible I use vintage Nottingham lace to illustrate the amazing skills the UK fashion industry was famed for around the world. All my production takes place in the UK in factories based in Wales, Nottingham, and London. Many styles are hand finished in our Brighton studio.

Q: Lace has made a serious comeback since Kate Middleton’s wedding, but Ayten Gasson has been using this gorgeous handmade lace for years. Can you talk to me about the relationship between lace and lingerie as well as the tradition of lace making in the UK?

Lace is an obvious material to trim lingerie with. It can be beautifully delicate and intricate and, when teamed with a luxurious fabric such as silk or peace silk, it can be a timelessly classic piece of clothing. Lace was traditionally made by hand, e.g. Bobbin lace, which was produced using a pillow on a stand, pins, and bobbins, weaving and braiding the threads together.

Lace is now reproduced by machines where patterns are made by moving apart the threads from a woven strip of fabric. Leavers lace is used in many of my designs. Leavers lace machines were invented in Nottingham by John Leavers in 1813. These amazing machines were able to recreate the look of handmade lace. Unfortunately, as the lace industry started to decline, these Leavers lace machines were bought by companies in France and many of the UK factories closed.

French lingerie label La Perla are still producing and using Leavers lace made on UK machines. It is a constant challenge to find vintage laces, especially ones that would be suitable for lingerie. I have decided to source ‘new’ English lace from companies based in the UK, thus supporting other businesses who are still manufacturing and selling in Britain.

Q: What changes did the brand undergo with the AW ’11 collection?

For AW11 I introduced a limited edition range of organic silk and cruelty-free peace silk pieces into our lingerie and nightwear collections. I have since expanded the ethical lingerie range to include bridal gift boxes, featuring an organic silk knicker, garter, and eye mask; a new bridal range of slips, camisoles, and knickers (available in August 2012) and even a selection of vegan peace silk nipple pasties.

Q: What inspires you?

I try and draw as much inspiration as I can from classic British traditions and themes. Collections have been inspired by the monarchy, old penny sweets, and traditional English flowers. I also can design a range around a small bit of vintage lace or an old trim found on a vintage garment.

Q: Who is the Ayten Gasson woman?

Someone who appreciates well made pieces without feeling it has to be a style piece or on trend. I believe that my collections appeal to all ages, sizes, and demographics, which is evident in the customers I see ordering from the website.

Q: Are there plans to expand outside the UK?

I am pleased to say we now have stockists around the world, including most of Europe, America, Australia, Israel, and the United Arab Emirates. We also sell online at aytengasson.com and ship worldwide.

Q: Where would you like to see the brand in 5 years?

I recently moved from London back to Brighton, the birthplace of my label. I aim to open my own boutique within the year somewhere along the south coast.

Visit Ayten Gasson’s website: aytengasson.com

Follow Ayten Gasson on Twitter @AytenGasson

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UD: BEAUTY

Urban Deva is committed to promoting natural, organic, and ethical products that are kind to your body, made with a consideration for human rights, and have a minimal impact on our environment.

Reconnect with Oneself, One Another, and Nature. This is Soulful Living.

April 12, 2012

Urban Deva on Pinterest

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Urban Deva on Pinterest

Okay, so it took us a while, but Urban Deva is finally on Pinterest. We’ve created four ‘boards’…

… to reflect the new sections that will be created on our revamped website later this year. Make sure to follow us to stay up to date with all our latest mind, body, and soul recommendations.

Find us at pinterest.com/urbandeva/

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April 4, 2012

Lelo Intimate Lifestyle Products Reviewed

Urban Deva Reviews Adult Pleasure Brand, Lelo

Back in the late nineties I bought my first vibrator ― a Rampant Rabbit: a phallus-shaped vibrator with a clitoral stimulant in the shape of rabbit ears that was louder than a concrete mixing truck. Thanks to the girls on TV series Sex and the City, vibrators became more openly acceptable ― fashionable, even ― and sales of the Rabbit shot into the stratosphere.

To be honest, I was never keen on it ― it was hardly discreet. It only had a couple of speeds and it looked a bit, well, childish. I wanted sleek and sexy, not something that resembled a deviant Fisher-Price toy ― which is where Lelo step in.

Founded in 2003, Lelo is the creation of a talented Swedish triumvirate consisting of two industrial designers and one engineer. After attempting to buy a 40th birthday present for the woman who ‘had it all’, they realised there was a niche in the market for beautifully designed, high-quality pleasure objects and, in particular, luxury intimate massagers. Rather than cut corners and scrimp on research or material, they focussed on producing body-safe products and drew their inspiration from the fashion and beauty industries. Their avant-garde approach and mid-to-premium price range has since attracted those with a strong sexual integrity and keen eye for design ― which is exactly what I love about their products.

Move over Rabbit, Lelo’s dual-action Soraya (£129) from their Insignia range is my ‘intimate massager’ of choice. Beautiful to look at, this sculpture-inspired vibrator wouldn’t look out of place in a Henry Moore exhibition. But don’t be fooled by its good looks. Beneath its FDA-approved silicone, fully-waterproofed cover (waterproof down to one metre… don’t ask) lie eight adjustable stimulation modes which provide up to four hours of (fully-rechargeable) pleasure. Best of all, it’s near silent.

I like the fact that once you’ve found your favourite setting you can slow it down or speed it up accordingly… and let me tell you, the combinations are damn good. One particular mode had me in hysterics and left me wondering how something so sylph-like could summon up such a thunderous vibration.

Thing is, as soon as you see the luxurious packaging you know you’re in for a treat. It comes with a satin storage pouch, one-year warranty, and a country-specific charger. But what tickled me most (apart from the clitoral stimulator) was the silver Insignia brooch. A masturbation badge ― who’d have thought it? Still, I think there’s something to be said for the woman who’s confident enough to flaunt the fact she pleases herself.

And in case you’re wondering why I’m referring to them as ‘pleasure objects’ rather than ‘sex toys’, it’s because Lelo coined the term. It actually makes a lot of sense (at least to me). In a previous article entitled Intimate Lifestyle Products Reviewed, I mentioned a book called Sex for One by Betty Dodson about masturbation. Thing is, if you’re alone with your vibrator, I’d say it’s a pleasurable experience you’re seeking. But you can call it having sex with yourself if you prefer. And if you’ve never had an orgasm I suggest you a buy a copy of Ms Dodson’s book to help you on your way.

I’ve also had the great satisfaction of trying Lelo’s Flickering Touch Massage Oil in Spicy Clove and Amber (£24.90) which smells and feels sensational. Their exquisite Vanilla & Crème de Cacao Flickering Touch Massage Candle (£19.90), however, is my favourite. Admittedly I can’t get enough of massage candles at the moment, so to be able to team their offering with one of their Intima Silk Blindfolds (£39) and a Tantra Feather Teaser (£16) and let’s just say you have the perfect ingredients for a delicious weekend away.

After several weeks trialling Lelo’s goodies I’ve been deeply impressed by their quality and craftsmanship. They may not be the cheapest, but you get what you pay for. Add to that the sleek, sophisticated design and, without a doubt, this is the brand of choice for the discerning individual who seeks to vary or enhance their sexual shenanigans. And if the series was still running, I’m pretty sure this would be the brand of choice for Carrie et al, too.

To view the whole range, locate your nearest stockist, or order online visit lelo.com.

Thea Euryphaessa

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UD: RECONNECT

Urban Deva encourages a vital, juicy, and pleasurable connection with the body. Sex-positive, we inspire and give individuals permission to consciously reconnect with themselves and others within a safe, supportive, and non-judgemental space.

February 15, 2012

Reconnect with Oneself: The Subtleties of Self-Betrayal

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Reconnect with Oneself:

The Subtleties of Self-Betrayal


I recently asked a client to note down every time they betrayed themselves throughout the course of a day. When, for example, did they agree to do something they didn’t want to? When did they laugh along with a joke their boss cracked but they didn’t find funny? When did they make a promise they had no intention of keeping? When did they fail to voice what would most bring them pleasure during a sexual encounter at the risk of sounding ‘selfish’?

The exercise wasn’t meant as a form of psychological self-flagellation; rather, it was an opportunity to illuminate their underlying motives ― to begin to expose their ‘shadow’. This particular individual knows just how easy it is for them to slip into a position of subservience as they doubt their self-worth. And, so, believing themselves disempowered they overcompensate in almost all their dealings and interactions, kowtowing to those they perceive more powerful than themselves and betraying their innermost truth in the process.

I was able to spot this particular pattern as it’s one I’d identified in myself a few years ago, particularly in my personal, intimate relationships with men. If, for example, I perceived someone to be more powerful than me ― to have the ‘upper hand’ ― I’d sell myself cheap as I didn’t believe myself worthy of them. More money, more popular, more intelligent ― you name it. Constantly defending, constantly on the back foot, that was me.

For a long time, for example, I allowed my self-worth to be defined by my net worth. When I quit my securely paid nine-to-five job to become a writer and follow a more soul-oriented path, I didn’t have a pot to squat in. Being skint made me feel vulnerable ― very vulnerable. In fact, I’m not surprised most people don’t follow their dreams as they have a tendency to thrust you face down in your deepest fears and insecurities where you’re left to squirm indefinitely.

My subtle acts of self-betrayal were also caused by not wanting to rock the boat and potentially be disliked for voicing my personal truth. My ultimate fear was I’d be cast out ― a social pariah, abandoned and ignored. Alone. What if no-one likes the real me? What if I don’t like the real me? In fact, do I really know what I’m all about and if I did, would I even like the company I keep? Who am I when no-one’s looking? Like following your dreams, warts and all self-reflection isn’t always a barrel of laughs.

Anyway, I call this process ‘seed-sorting’ ― when you consciously examine your relationships and the part you play in them. How many relationships do you have, for example, that are long past their sell-by date but you stick with out of some guilt-oriented trip because you upset the other/s in some way, shape, or form, once upon a time? That because you still feel guilty, you continue to pay for your wrongdoing (perceived or actual) ad infinitum? This gets murkier and more difficult to disentangle if the issue was less about anything you did ‘wrong’ and more about the other party’s insecurities and/or shadow ― you just happened to be the scapegoat.

Another example might be someone who once did you a favour but feels you still owe them. The power trippers who seemingly offer something from the goodness of their heart but, because they feel insecure in themselves, unconsciously seek control over others. Manipulative, this lot. Subtle, too. If you don’t feel in control of your own life ― if you feel insecure and believe someone has ‘something over you’ ― unless you name and claim your own feelings of powerlessness, insecurity, and vulnerability, you’ll likely seek control over others and look to ‘get your own back’ or ‘one-up’ on them.

Thing is, if we’re not careful we’ll continue to pay not just for the mistakes we did make, but for the ones we didn’t. If we’re not careful, our motives will stem from a position of powerlessness and insecurity, rather than authenticity and generosity. If we’re not careful, we’ll betray our innermost truth at the expense of people-pleasing and pandering to others.

Self-awareness is all.

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